And then there are those other Powerpoint slides to do, she thought as she waited for the green man to appear. Lunch hour had just about ended, and the heat of the afternoon sun hung heavy. A familiar wave of dread began to rear its head; here came the inevitable. She hurried up the steps onto the pedestrian bridge, striding absently past the durian cake peddler, the scattered clumps of paper waste and damp leaves… a snatch of singing drifted by, and her focus abruptly caught. There sat the omnipresent beggar in her tattered, once-purple headscarf, cradling her child. Averting her eyes, she wondered for the millionth time whether to put money into the bowl. But then her legs swept her forward, like clockwork, back to the office tower looming across the Klang River – another day, perhaps – leaving the pleading eyes, the dulcet voice and the empty bowl behind.


I had barely stepped over the threshold
When the thunderstorm came.
It raged about most violently-
But I was curious all the same.

So I stepped out from under the shelter
And let the rain wash down upon my head
Then lightning struck – I fell.
And so I took myself for dead.

But with each raindrop that pricked my skin
and each clap of thunder that made me shudder
More and more I came to see
I was as alive and living as ever.

You know a beautiful chord has made an appearance when a hushed peace suddenly falls like a veil upon the room and comes to settle somewhere at the bottom of your heart. The vocal arrangements of Loch Lomond have many of these moments. Yet like other kinds of beautiful creations of art, songs like these often belie some sort of poignant history.

“Me and my true love will never meet again on the bonnie bonnie banks of Loch Lomond” – that’s the line I’ve always heard and remembered from all the times I’ve listened to the King’s Singers’ Loch Lomond, and I’ve always assumed it’s a song about separated lovers. Sad enough, of course, but more wistful and yearning than tragic. Then the other night, I found myself fully immersed in this song for the first time, and was then moved to properly look up the lyrics.

There are apparently a few versions of the history to this traditional Scottish song. Most are related to the Jacobite uprising of 1745, and turns out the stories are really quite sad. The saddest of all to me is this one that is rather suggestive of Sophie’s choice (excerpted from Wikipedia):

“The Hanoverian British victors were known to play cruel games on the captured Jacobites, and would supposedly find a pair of either brothers or friends and tell them one could live and the other would be executed, and it was up to the pair to decide….The song is sung by the brother or friend who chose or was chosen to die. He is therefore telling his friend that they will both go back to Scotland, but he will go on the “low road”, his body being paraded along the main road controlled by the Duke of Cumberland’s forces, whereas his friend will have to head for the hilltops, taking longer to get back.”

Oh, how my heart aches now…but! Like any good old folk song (so I have come to discover from my excellent sample size of 2), there is of course a jazz version – a lovely chirpy thing, complete with bagpipe vibes, that one just must do the lindy hop to as one traipses between the living room and the kitchen. Here it is.

P.s. I would be remiss not to also share the King’s Singers version and this choral version that makes me want to cry, and then pick up a black ring binder and dive into a choir right now. There’s also a great arrangement by Jonathan Quick on spotify that starts with giving me warm fuzzy feelings, then makes me think of galloping about on a horse, and then finally reminds me of Vuelie.

Each time I peer out of the window as the plane leaves or approaches KLIA, I marvel at how vast the landscape is, and how strange it is that I could live in a place forever and never set foot on most of it. How inconceivable it is that I would see this same landscape so many times but never be able to identify anything in it. Nighttime is especially mysterious, because all the shades and nuances that are visible under sunlight are uncompromisingly reduced to black and orange, and one can’t even tell trees and water apart.

It is so easy to dismissively say I know KL, and that I know it enough to have earned the right to tire of it. Yes, I know the overall political narrative, spare me the salacious details. Yes, I talk to Grab drivers, everyone is worried about cost of living and everyone seems to have voted in Harapan. Yes, I look right out of my apartment or the LRT and I see the blatant disparities in housing between the gentry and the migrant workers and everyone else in between. Yes yes, it’s a mess, everything is always a mess.

But an aerial view is a stark reminder that this place, any place, is so much bigger than my existence in it. It will never be possible for me to make a fair and decisive assessment. No matter how many times I stand and stare at the infinite number of windows of the flats opposite, no matter how many times I start or dodge conversations with Grab drivers, no matter how many pangs of guilt or sympathy I feel every time the LRT whizzes by the ramshackle roofs of the construction workers who built my home, most of it will remain beyond my grasp, and I will only ever know hardly anything at all.

I wonder if this is the reason I feel so restless living in KL. It is not that I hate it, I suspect, but rather that I don’t know or don’t find enough to love. And because I want to placate my anxiety that I am being rash with my decisions, I grapple for a stronger reason than just “meh” to leave, and so I find fault with it. No matter how many times I say and reason it out loud, cavalierly saying “not feeling safe and free” or “all the markets are the same” are not convincing even to me. I feel this in my gut.

I still don’t know the root cause. But I definitely know the symptoms. I know my heart feels heavy when I arrive at KLIA, as I approach the tangled queues at the passport counter. There is no sense of gladness that I associate with the feeling of coming home, unlike, in no particular order – the moments of waiting for the gates of the house in Melaka to roll open, the lurch of excitement as I climb up the stairs to YCA, the relief as I swing open the door and smell the Ikea emanating from my apartment, the swell of confident familiarity as I step out of the train and submerge myself in the hushed bustle of Frankfurt Hbf, unlatching the gate of Adrian’s house as snatches of whoops and laughter float into the evening air from somewhere up above.

What makes one feel connected to a place? Is it all chance and feelings? Can these sentiments be planned and forged by choice?

Surely it’s not just about the people and good memories, because of course I have made great memories here. It cannot be about how formative the time spent was. I do not feel that any particular period of my life was “more” formative than others – every phase in life is formative to me, and even if the criticality of now is not yet clear, it will establish itself in hindsight. It is not about how formative the time is/was – the distinction to me is more about how much I value what was formed in me as a result. Even then, there are aspects of living and working and taking part in KL that have shaped me and my purpose in life and I wouldn’t erase these for anything. And surely it cannot be about the politics or conflict of values and ideals, because that would make me the worst kind of hypocrite – the kind that claims to want to make the world better but doesn’t actually want to get their hands dirty coming in contact with it.

Or maybe the only reason I feel this way is that I have actually spent concentrated time as a financially independent adult in KL, unlike other places where my time was far too fleeting or where I was a child or student interacting within the cocoon of institutions and routines rather than the with real word. Which means, unfortunately, that anywhere I come to settle I will find reasons to be dissatisfied. But fortunately this also means that it is within my control, because the only solution is choice – wherever I go I must actively choose to find and forge meaning, rather than wait for meaning to come to me.

Every so often in my late night meanderings on Spotify or Youtube I find a song that gets to me so viscerally, I feel as though I have found a soulmate – and wish nothing better than to disappear into the folds of melody like how Ariel became one with the waves. Tonight’s unexpected romance is with Jeanie with the Light Brown Hair, written by Stephen Foster, the same guy who wrote Oh! Susanna. I have been listening to and liking Bill Murray’s version from his New Worlds album with Jan Vogler (which I cannot recommend highly enough) for a while now, but it wasn’t until I stumbled upon Sam Cooke’s version just now that it really hit me – what a beautiful, beautiful song. I switched back to Bill Murray’s version, let the piano notes trickle in, let Bill Murray’s quavering, despondent voice envelope my heart, and then lay on the bed covers, quite unable to move.

I dream of Jeanie with the light brown hair,
Borne, like a zephyr, on the summer air;
I see her tripping where the bright streams play,
Happy as the daisies that dance on her way.
Many were the wild notes her merry voice would pour.
Many were the blithe birds that warbled them o’er:
Oh! I dream of Jeanie with the light brown hair,
Floating, like a vapor, on the soft summer air.

I long for Jeanie with the daydawn smile,
Radiant in gladness, warm with winning guile;
I hear her melodies, like joys gone by,
Sighing round my heart o’er the fond hopes that die:—
Sighing like the night wind and sobbing like the rain,—
Wailing for the lost one that comes not again:
Oh! I long for Jeanie, and my heart bows low,
Never more to find her where the bright waters flow.

I sigh for Jeanie, but her light form strayed
Far from the fond hearts round her native glade;
Her smiles have vanished and her sweet songs flown,
Flitting like the dreams that have cheered us and gone.
Now the nodding wild flowers may wither on the shore
While her gentle fingers will cull them no more:
Oh! I sigh for Jeanie with the light brown hair,
Floating, like a vapor, on the soft summer air.

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